Wednesday, April 8, 2009

take responsibility

This sentence well sums up my queasiness with respect to heart-bleeding paternalism (you can replace "feminists" with "people"): "The current love affair with understanding stops feminists from calling victims on taking responsibility for their own well-being."

From this slate article asking why women stay in abusive relationships.

Maybe it's possible to empathize with self-destructiveness, to make excuses for self-defeatingness, to blame your mental makeup (which is, after all, the fault of the environment you grew up in, not yourself) as the amorphous impediment to your success. I feel for you, really. But readily accepting these explanations is a guarantee you won't get where you're trying to go, and a society that readily accepts these explanations is doomed to a stasis of naval-gazing ineffectiveness.